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Only Tuesday?

August 31st, 2005 at 05:32 am

Okay, so tomorrow is payday so I find out how much more my check is. But then I need to turn around and send it all to rent. And we need to pay tuition. DH will get paid on the 1st, but his check won't be here until the 5th or 6th. There's money in the bank to cover what needs to be covered, but it's frustruating that I have to go to the bank 3x/month to deposit checks.

I stopped a bought a soda on my way in to work this morning. I should have gotten gas too, but I was silly and didn't. I'm only down a quarter of a tank, but I didn't think about gas prices going up. Of course it's probably only about 3-4 gallons anyway, so I would probably have only saved $1.00 (which would have paid for my soda).

Then at lunchtime I realized I had left my snacks at home (I don't take a lunch break, but eat snacks at my desk) so I bought some tater tots when the ladies offered to get me something from the fast food joint they were going to. I like to buy things every so often when they offer, anyway though, because I don't want to appear too standoffish. I already have problems in that I only work parttime. So that was $2.00. So I spent $2.96 today.

DH said he spent some, but he left the receipts in his car. We'll see what that adds up to when he gets them to me tomorrow (or whenever he does). I'll have to have those receipts before I can do our monthly spending, but so far it looks pretty good. Of course, there was a trip to the OK line that I haven't seen the gas receipts for. He was supposed to get reimbursed for a good portion of it since he was driving to a business event, his boss said it would be fine to use his car and put in for reimbursement (rather than using the state's car) but neglected to tell him he had to get prior approval from a specific department. So that sucks, I'll bet it was close to $300 in mileage (based on 40 cents/mile). Stupid boss. I hate jobs that don't provide a detailed manuel for everything, so that you only find out when you do it wrong and you suffer. I suspect they do it on purpose. He works for the state, so you'd think they'd try to take care of their employees, especially since they pay them about half the going salary for their field. But, oh'twell.

Sore legs

August 30th, 2005 at 04:08 am

We went bike-riding. We've kept our weight under control but DH has started buying ben and jerry's ice cream and it was creeping up (still well within the healthy weight). So I made a rule that we wouldn't have ice cream unless we had exercised first (yes, I know that it would take way more than 25 minutes of bike riding to make up for a serving of ice cream, but it has cut the consumption a lot). So, now I'm enjoying my new york super fudge chunk. Yummy!

My boss asked me what day I started working 1/2 hour more so he could tell the bookkeeper, so I expect my paycheck will go up by about $20 or so this pay period. It isn't much, but it's something.

DH is looking into selling his photos online. One site he was looking at is They pay 20 cents every time your photo is downloaded. We have literally thousands of photos and fully 10% would be usable for marketing purposes (including some gorgeous ones of the tulsa skyline). So, it's something to consider. He's also looking into printing some of his nicer horticultural photos and making them into posters for his office and to see if they could sell. It's an idea.

Grocery shopping today. This brings the total to just under $220, which is $80 less than budgeted. Most of our items are organic (ben and jerry's excluded) and we are a family of 4. So, I think that's not bad.

And thank you for the stars. They're so pretty!


August 29th, 2005 at 05:04 am

So we did go the beach today. Not the most frugal trip since it is 40 minutes away (I'm not sure of the miles, but 40 miles would be a good approximation). So that's about 2.5 gallons of gas round trip. Then, of course, we have to eat out. But we eat all you can eat seafood and to get this fresh of fish it is actually cheaper to eat out (we can buy the same fish they do, but they get a much better price). But, DH wanted to eat at the more expensive place and then let both kids order a meal, and the waitress was good, so we tipped well, so it was $27.60 to eat out (at the other place, with tip, it's $18).

We're over our eating out budget this month, by $60. Some of that is dh's business trip, we'll be reimbursed for that, but it will take a little while. Actually, we've been reimbursed for the first trip, but the 2nd trip is still on hold. There was also some traveling in that total and celebratory dinners (my bday, first day with the kids back, first day of school) but over is over. And I know that DH will want to eat out this week (well, he'll have to, he's travelling for work again) since his bday is this week. Maybe we can keep it under $40 (maybe we can use a cert) and keep our budget less than $150 over. So frustrating. I figured the amount with eating out 1x/week at our average cost rounded up to the next $50 (just in case). I hope we can get back on track for september, but I'm not that hopeful. I may have to tinker with the budget or have a "Come to Jesus" meeting with DH. We aren't going into debt by going over, but we aren't paying as much on debt as we could (that extra $100 could make a sizable dent).

This is why I keep track of everything I spend. I'm still working out my budget and making sure it fits our life and is realistic. The next step will be to post the amount we spend somewhere where dh can see it, but he thinks it's silly. He can't seem to get why I care. We're young and we have enough money to enjoy ourselves and "we work hard", etc. He just doesn't get it. It's so frustrating.

Okay day

August 28th, 2005 at 07:09 am

It was a nice lazy day. The kids and DH wanted to go out to eat, but I convinced them to wait until tomorrow. We'll probably go to the beach and if we do, we'll stop and have seafood (yummy, all you can eat).

DH got the phone he ordered from ebay and it was not as advertised. A piece of it is about to break off, so he's trying to get the seller to refund some money. If he won't work it out, DH will go through ebay and paypal resolution. I think he might be able to fix it with some epoxy type glue, but he would never have paid that much if he had known the true condition. Also, it was advertised as a t-mobile phone, but it's an AT&T phone. It's unlocked so DH can make it work, but it's more work than he had planned. So, not a good ebay experience.

Finally Friday

August 27th, 2005 at 05:49 am

It's finally friday. I keep a spreadsheet at work of all my files and created a tickler with it. Friday is my day to catch up all my tickler dates. Yeah, that didn't go so well. I got an emergency call that a payoff was needed. I don't like to do payoffs because I don't actually process the payments so I'm having to use the record keeping of someone else. I also needed to contact the clients to find out if they had any other expenses I didn't know about. I called the title company and told them monday. They just called me this week, after I called and called for a month to find out if they were going to request a payoff.

DH got his travel reimbursement check in today. This is for his first business trip in August. He has another trip he needs to submit and will have one next week too.

In February we went to Dallas and stayed in a hotel and had a bad experience. The final capper was that there was a dirty glass under the bed which had been used as a spit cup for someone who dips tobacco. I was looking to see if there was anything of ours under there and actually touched that nasty tobacco. I wanted to crawl out of my skin. But, we complained and they sent us a certificate for 2 free nights. So now when I drive to Dallas to meet my mom, I won't have to pay for the hotel room. I sure hope this experience is better.

I spent $20 to buy school shirts for my kids. I think I got sizes that will grow with them, but still fit them now. I hope so anyway. That was the extent of my spending. Dh told me he spent some money to get some software so that we can list his photos for sale online. He takes the most amazing nature photos. This would be great, we're doing pretty well, but I'd like to have his camera work for us. Besides, he loves photography so much that he wants so many things. Right now it's been too expensive to let him get whatever he wants, but with a little bit of income, maybe he can get his kit worked out.

Free Credit Report

August 26th, 2005 at 02:18 am

So I ran my credit report through equifax today.

It's fairly clean. They have my name all screwy and suddenly I know where all the funky junk mail comes from. Including one that is addressed Lastname FI Lastname. They also have my bday off by 3 days.

I don't know if I should correct that or not. They have my correct name, it's just listed as "formerly".

I also found out I have an open diamond shamrock card. I'm not sure I ever used it, I signed up for it in college to get the freebie they were offering and forgot about it. They've never even sent me a new card (I guess the first one expired). I'll have to close it, no phone # on the credit report, of course.

I also have a collections account on it that is marked as paid. I have no idea what that is about, I suspect it was an insurance issue (hospital collections for the hospital I had my ultrasound, but nothing else, at). It's marked as paid, so I don't know if I should fight it or not.

The rest shows good and clear. My discover card shows 2 30day late pays years ago (when DH was paying the bills). I can't argue those, so I'll just have to wait until they fall off, it shouldn't be long now.

We went to look at that house. It's VA, not HUD. It's okay, the rooms are smallish. The big problem is that there is mold in every wall. EVERY wall. That's just too much. It's too bad because this is a good neighborhood and the resell value is high. But that would be too much work. The walls would have to be stripped of all sheetrock and special mold killers inserted. The good thing is that would give you a chance to insert soundproofing in the interior walls, the bad thing is that that has to indicate a leak somewhere. I suspect it needs a new roof.

We went ahead and looked at a two story in our neighborhood. It has a great floor plan, but it's too hot here for a two story. And it needs a lot of work as well. Probably $40k minimum. New roof, the exterior walls have animal holes in them, the flooring has been stripped (which isn't a big deal to me, that just saves a step when it comes time to rehab the house (since I will pull out any carpet in any home we buy).

I'm disappointed. I want to buy a house, but I don't want to spend an arm and a leg to do it. I want my payment with taxes and insurance to be less than $1k/month. I'm just not sure how that will happen unless I buy in one of the really bad neighborhoods (the ones where you can't walk outside day or night).

Good day at work

August 25th, 2005 at 03:39 am

I got the stuff done I needed to get done and a little more even. At 1:30 I was thinking how great the day was going, so much stuff done. Then, of course, I opened my mouth and my computer decided that that was pretty much all I was going to accomplish for the day. So frustrating. I was there another hour and spent my time fighting with my computer.

I didn't spend any money today. The receptionist asked me to let her know when I was going to the vending machine so I could get her a coke and it felt good to say I wasn't doing that anymore. My goal for August was to not visit the vending machine and so far I've kept to my goal.

I also decided to implement a past goal again. The goal was to have a vegetarian meal once/week. So tonight I cooked (rare) and made black beans and yellow rice. The beans were canned and the rice was from a package, but it was still less than $2 for the meal. It fed the four of us and left some rice for a snack for DS1 tomorrow (he loves yellow rice). I need to figure out some other veggie meals, though, we've done this meal as our main veggie meal and I think DH will get sick of it if we have it every week. When it gets cooler we can have pinto beans and cornbread (I don't put meat in my pinto beans, that's gross) and then I'll mash the pinto beans to have bean burritoes. But it won't really be cool enough to cook beans until November (crockpot beans never turn out right, plus to make the smashed beans, I like to let the liquid cook off so everything is concentrated).

We took a short walk tonight to look at a HUD home in the neighborhood. Its backyard backs up to my kids' bestfriends backyard. They would love that. We'll have to look at the inside though, the rooms look small and I'm not sure there isn't mold growing on a bedroom wall. We do live in South Texas so you expect mold and as long as it isn't the dangerous black mold, it might still be worth it. They want $50k (or that's the opening bid? how do hud homes work?) which is a great price for this neighborhood. A similar house (in better shape, I hope) just sold for over $100k.

We'd have to hire a general contractor to knock out the wall between the kitchen and dining room because the kitchen is too small to be functional. We'd also have to pull up the ugly teal carpet, I'd prefer hardwood floors, but could deal with parquet or fake wood.

So we have to consider how much it would cost to rehab the house and figure out the whole home remodel loan business. Not to mention how to bid on a HUD home. This would be a good investment, though, provided we can get it and remodel it for less than $90k.

First long day

August 24th, 2005 at 02:41 am

It's only 30 minutes extra, but it felt much longer. I had to come home and take a nap when DH got home. So I missed exercise. We've made a deal that we won't eat ice cream unless we've "earned" it. So I haven't had ice cream for a while.

DH says he bought a cell phone from ebay for $34. @@ I think we have something like 6 cell phones right now. We each have one (no landline) and he has a work phone then we have extra phones. One doesn't work though, so I guess it evens out. He swears he didn't expect to get the phone, but I don't know why he was bidding in the first place.

He's ready to send $1,200 to credit cards and is upset that it isn't more. Yes, it will be more when I get paid, but I want to make sure that we have enough money in our account to cover the bills even if I don't get paid (I have never not been paid, but I still like to make sure that I could get by if the paycheck was late for any reason).

I don't feel like I got anything done at work today. I need to do 3 letters and 3 business filings first thing tomorrow morning. This on top of my other duties (and both attorneys will have 3 dozen emergencies pop-up). I also need to draft a will ASAP. So my whole morning will be slam-packed with emergencies. Then I've got to figure out a payoff statement for a closing. That will be fun. I've also got about 5 phone calls to make. Lucky, lucky me.

Hair cuts all around

August 23rd, 2005 at 05:16 am

DH got out the clippers and scissors and cut both boys hair and then gave me a trim. I estimate we saved $20 ($5 for each kid and $10 for me). I need to learn to cut his hair, but I am so not good at it. It's okay for the boys to be a bit raggedy (and that's him, "Mr Steadyhands" cutting it) but not for a professional male. My hair is long and only needs occasional trims to get rid of the split ends.

Of course, that's after an expensive day. We needed to take the kids for their back to school physicals and get them each their MMR shot. $25 copay each. Plus I had to sit there for 2+ hours. I was so tired and frustrated. I didn't realize it was going to take so long, so I didn't bring them a book or anything back into the office. Then my 5yo didn't want to cooperate with the hearing test so we'll have to get it done again, sigh. Oh well, they need to go back in 6-8 weeks for their last Hep A shots, so we'll try it again there.

I figured after the trauma of getting a shot and waiting forever, I could give them a treat. I was already planning a slushie from Sonic for a first day back to school treat, so I decided to get them a kids' meal (very, very, very rare for us). Then because I was sooo exhausted and wanted a treat, I got myself a coney meal. Which was silly. I would have been just as happy with the coney and just stealing the kids' tater tots and drinking tea at home. At least I didn't "sonic size" it though. It was still $12.

So, expensive day for us. But the shot is cheaper than having to deal with the disease the vaccine was for. Plus, the doc was able to put my mind at ease about a funky spot on DS1's tummy. It's just his xyphoid process. Duh! I felt like a right idiot that I hadn't figured that out, I had pretty intensive anatomy classes in my biology classes.

But, now I know the kids are healthy and this is an expense we won't have again for a while (well, 6-8 weeks).

Ugh, "emergency" clothes for school

August 22nd, 2005 at 05:01 am

I hate that I have to send extra clothes for them to have at school. For my 5yo, it's fairly easy, I'll just send stuff that he's about to outgrow and that has already been through the older brother (the shirt I'm sending we've been using since 2001). But for the 7yo? What do I send, it all either still fits well or fits the 5yo. And none of it is even beginning to show wear.

I guess I'll hit a thrift store to see if I can find some cheap shorts. Then trade them out. I ended up sending a nice pair of denim shorts, but it irks me to do it. That means that they'll be sitting at the school all year waiting to be worn and never getting worn and he'll outgrow them before he gets to wear them (unless I find some nice, cheap shorts at the thrift store). In November or so, I'll have to go through this with pants.

I guess I'll give my mom a mission - find cheap shorts for 7yo when she's garage selling (she shops like a fiend, and it works out best to give her mini-missions).

I'm going to talk to my boss about extending my hours tomorrow. The extra money will help, we can pay off some debt faster. This will cut into my errand running time, but maybe they've extended the pickup time as well as the school day. I'm thinking they should give us 5 minutes extra to get there, but I could be wrong.

School shopping

August 22nd, 2005 at 02:32 am

The kids are in private school (the only way to get full day kindy) so I don't have to supply school supplies. They have plenty of clothes and each got a new outfit this summer. So they're good for that. I thought, "why not get them a lunch box? That way they can carry their lunch to school easily." (The school doesn't really do hot lunches). OUCH! Lunch boxes are not cheap. We went to Target, got the lunch boxes, a cup for snacks, dental floss and laundry detergent and it was $28.96. But now we're good for laundry detergent for the next year.

Then, because I haven't eaten out in a week and we were right there, we decided to go get pizza. That was $19.88 for the buffet. The kids each played one game in the game room (we had game play cards, so that was fine).

Now they're in bed, the lunches are mostly made and we're ready to start school tomorrow. I should probably go ahead and take the snacks out to the car so I won't have to try to remember.

Family Home

August 21st, 2005 at 12:50 am

I'm so excited, my family will all be home in about 20 minutes or so. The boys have been visiting grandparents and the DH has been on a business trip. I'm so happy they're coming home!

DH tells me they spent about $35 bucks camping and eating. Then there will be the gas prices from driving from the OK/TX state line down here to darn near mexico.

I haven't spent any money today. I just went out and pulled weeds, and used the manual weed whacker to knock down the darn johnsongrass. I swear that stuff springs up overnight and before you know it it's 4 feet tall. But, I'm committed to no energy usage for my weed whacker activities, so ... I now have 2 nice little blisters. I weed whacked last night at 2:00am, figuring that was the coolest part of the day and that no one would try to attack a woman swinging a sharp piece of metal around. And if someone did come into my backyard and attack me, I could take care of them pretty easily.

Parent orientation at school

August 20th, 2005 at 01:42 am

Went to the parent orientation at school last night. Found out I need to buy my 5yo a cup for snack time. A specific type of cup which of course I don't have. They also can't carry backpacks (which he has used to carry his lunch) so he'll definitely need a lunchbox now.

But, I also found out that the school had extended the classroom time from last year. He will now be picked up at 2:45 rather than 2:15. That's an extra half hour. I get off work at 2:00 and it's a 10 minute drive, at most. My office also runs "fast" so 2:00 is more like 1:55. That means I will have 40 minutes to waste day-in, day-out. Now I'm trying to decide if I want to talk to my boss about extending my hours by 30 mins/day. That will put me working 6hrs/day. I have the work for it. I mentioned it today but said I needed to think about it and drive the roads to the school. I ended up working late and left at 2:30 (2:25) and was at their school by 2:35. So, I can do it and have a little bit of time to spare.

It wouldn't increase my take-home pay by that much, but it would be enough to put them in kung-fu classes. So, it's something to think about and talk to dh about.

I haven't spent any money today. DH has reported yet, but I'm sure he's spent about $15, not to mention the gas I know he was planning to buy today.

Gas - OUCH

August 19th, 2005 at 02:08 am

I did my monthly fill up on my car and OUCH. Almost $20. I used to be less than $10. I'm glad I don't drive much (when we lived in OKC, I had to fill up about once/week).

And then, since Circle K is having a special on their sodas, I had to go buy one. It was 96 cents, then I poured some off into a water bottle so I have soda for tomorrow. I wasn't prepared or I would have had 2 water bottles (which is what I did last time).

I've been messing with the budget some. I felt so bad about our spending in July because it was sooo much more than we made. Then I looked it over and realized that the reason it was so high was because we had dipped into savings to pay off a credit card. Once I took out the credit card payment that was over the minimum required, the budget came waaay down. Then it was just over because of a planned expense we had saved for (and that wouldn't have been so bad except DH had to register his truck and car in TX and that was a lot more than I had expected).

So, now my spending/budget reconciliation doesn't include cc payments over the minimum (we have a balance on one card because we just transferred a high interest debt to a zero interest card). I will show that when I do my monthly networth statement (debt going down and savings going up or staying the same).

Doctor's appt

August 17th, 2005 at 11:59 pm

Thanks to health insurance it was "only" $25. My least favorite appt of all, the dreaded "well-woman visit".

The good news, everything looks okay, my blood pressure is still good, my pulse rate is the lowest it's ever been and my weight isn't as bad as I thought it would be (I'm still about 10lbs heavier than I want to be, but well within the healthy weight).

That's the only money I've spent today. I'm home for the day. I've got henna in my hair to cover the gray and condition it. I've eaten my supper of leftovers (one more thing finished before it went bad, yay me!). Now I just need to motivate to clean, clean, clean. Maybe I'll just do the minimum and clean tomorrow. Yeah, that sounds good.

Finally back

August 17th, 2005 at 03:15 am

So, I had to go to the dentist. In order to use my dental insurance I had to drive to San Antonio (4 hours). We decided that since the kids were gone we'd make it a getaway weekend. It was a nice time, we walked and walked and walked along the riverwalk. Spent $5 or so at Ben & Jerry's then had a meal at a Mexican restaurant and walked back to our hotel.

I was told the filling for my tooth would probably be $75 after insurance payment, but they said there wasn't a charge. I hope they were right. It was pretty quick and mostly painless. The tooth hadn't started to decay, so they just put a new filling on it. I didn't get a full cleaning and checkup, but he didn't say anything about the condition of my teeth or gums, so I'm thinking they must at least look okay.

We used the trip to go to Costco and stock up on some things. We got some organic milk to freeze (milk freezes well, just pour off some to allow for expansion and be prepared to shake it after it thaws) and then we got the VCR/DVDR we were looking at (it was on sale this week). Our bedroom TV went out, but DH had a projector that he could hook to a VCR, so that's what he's been doing. He projects it onto the bedroom wall and has a big screen tv. It works really well for him. So we spent $189 for the VCR/DVDR and saved the money we would have spent on a new TV (about $250). This is our bday present to ourselves (we both have bdays this month).

For bdays, we get money from our moms. I've decided to average those out for our eating out budget. We love to eat out and it's the best treat for us. So I'll just divide the total by 12 and make it our new monthly budget. Also, DH travels occasionally for work and gets a nice amount for perdiem ($30/day) and he never spends that much (I tell him to treat himself some), so I'm going to average that out also. This month will be a busy month. He's already been gone 4.5 days and will be gone at least 5 more (2 more trips). He probably will spend $50 each trip, so we'll come out ahead.

My kids come home this weekend. I'm so excited. They've been gone too long. They start school Monday and I'll take them to the store to pick up a lunch box. Last year they made it by with bags and what not, but I think they would have fun with a lunchbox. Yes, it's money I don't have to spend, but it's something they will enjoy. I always wanted a lunchbox and to take my lunch to school, but my mom wouldnt' go for it. I don't have a choice but to send their lunch, their school doesn't have a hot lunch program.

We're on track to be in budget for groceries and eating-out. It's hard to say about gas. Too many long trips and gas is so high right now. I may have to reevaluate that budget category.

What a larder

August 14th, 2005 at 12:35 am

DH opened our pantry doors and couldn't believe the amount of food we have. We have a deep freeze full of meat and a pantry full of food. I have the kids' lunches taken care for at least the next 8 weeks (their school does not do hot lunches). I have cereal for my breakfast for a while. We have granola bars for snacks. We are food rich. It's a great feeling. Especially since we spent sooo much on groceries last month (that's when we stocked up on the meat).

Supper tonight was chicken bratwurst and sauerkraut. So good. DH grills them all at once and then we freeze them until it's time to eat them. Quick meal. Nutritious meal.

I have my mom bring me Cain's tea when we meet. You can't buy it in TX, only OK and KS, they don't even have a website. But it's so good, it never gets bitter, even when you boil it for a long time (I steep a quart size tea bag for a while and then get it strong enough for a half-gallon pitcher). I have enough until about October. Then I don't know what I'll do. I guess when I see her over labor day I'll ask her to bring more.

Tomorrow won't be quite so cheap and Monday won't be any better. But then next week should be okay. Next weekend the kids come home (YAY!!!) and then school will start the 22nd. This is probably their last year in private school (it's the only way I can work, there is no all day kindy here and afterschool care costs more than the montessori school and I'd have to worry about someone else transporting my kids). The one thing about this school is that I don't have to provide school supplies (well, I do because I pay a supplies fee, but I don't have to go buy a bunch).

Good day

August 13th, 2005 at 02:00 am

At work I managed to complete 2 huge projects that have been hanging over my head. I have 3 more and then those are done and it's back to normal work duties. I ended up working late today to finish those things, but it was so worth it.

DH and I went out to eat last night, so I ended up spending $10.36 yesterday. The kids are visiting grandparents so we had a nice time out. I made him drive down the road I work on and look at the funky neighborhood leading up to my office. Then I pointed out the office (I've been there 4 months and he still had no idea where I worked). Then we were downtown and saw the hamburger joint was still open. It's a cool place, they have these display cases full of fun items - radios from like the 20s through the 60s and some novelty ones. Phones from old crank phones to a 1980s cell phone.

I like looking at displays like those. It reminds me of why I don't have collections of my own. My mom and dad have these extensive collections that take up their whole house. They even built a huge 25x25 room to hold more collections. They probably have $15k invested in their collections (if not more). They get things as a "good deal" and can't pass it up. I told them to make my brother executor of their estates because I'm not going to want to deal with their collections. I'll call an auction house and tell them to have fun.

I realize how much money I save by not having collections. Also, all the time I save not having to dust and care for collections, shop for collections, etc. I don't know which came first, the frugalness or the no collections rule, but I know they work hand in hand.


Random thoughts

August 11th, 2005 at 08:33 pm

No money spent by me today. I have no idea what DH has spent. He seems to resent me tracking spending. He wants to buy things when he wants to buy them. He does search out the best deal and make sure he buys quality, but he doesn't want to give me the receipts, etc. Frustrating.

DH feels we have no control over money. We spend what we spend and that's all there is to it. It isn't worth giving up "things" in order to gain control over money. This, of course, is putting stress on our relationship. I think that if you don't control money, it controls you and we've spent a lot of years feeling very pinched and not getting medical/dental care when we needed it because "the money wasn't there". We had money to go out to eat once/week (usually places like Sam's where all 4 of us could eat for less than $10, but still) and money for cable and cable internet and cell phones and I could go on.

I was talking to a friend last night about my job. I work parttime while the kids are in school. It's great, the hours are good, the pay is better than I ever expected for a parttime job, the work is just challenging enough, but not so challenging I bring it home with me at night (physically or mentally). I mentioned that I could stay like this for years and be fine. She reminded me that when you do that, your pay often barely keeps up with inflation nevermind not keeping up with your increased skills. True. I know the people I work with have been there for 10-15 years and they're resenting their payscale. They don't want to look for a new job, but they want this job to "pay them what they're worth". It's a small office, there is no management ladder to climb, your job title you were hired at is your job title. So you don't see a promotion with a raise. It won't happen.

I told my friend that I understood that, but that I wasn't ambitious and that was fine.

Then I remembered a conversation we'd had about one of the 9/11 widows who was upset at the way she'd frittered her money. Some of our friends were really angry that she frittered it away, some were angry that she appeared to be trying to get sympathy for it, etc. I realized I was resentful that she felt the need to list the things she spent money on. I didn't need to know the details and knowing the details both annoyed me and pissed me off. She spent more money on one purse than I make in a week and more than I probably ever will make in a week. So there's some things I need to work out. I need to make my inner being realize that unless I become more ambitious, I'm not going to ever make enough to buy the luxury items some people buy as a matter of course and I need to let go of the resentment at the way they spend their money (but I do still feel that no one needs to talk about it).

I also realized that I have quite a bit of resentment towards people who inherited their money and make comments like "well, if they'd just work harder they could have money like me" and "well, I EARNED my money". Being born to a rich family does not mean you earned your money or that you worked hard for it. Being in a power position in a company may or may not mean you worked hard and deserved that position. I've seen way too many people who got a position strictly because they had the right connections. I've learned a lot over the past few years of job hunting and realized that it's 95% who you know as to whether you'll get a job. I never would have gotten my current job if it wasn't for my landlady. DH wouldn't have gotten his current job if it wasn't for a friend of his. We deserve our jobs, we have the skills to handle them, but we wouldn't have ever gotten past the interview (if we'd even gotten the interview) without knowing the right people. And that pisses me off a little. I've lost out on dream jobs because someone with more connections was given it. One job I knew for a fact the guy hired was NOT more qualified (it was someone I knew very well). America is absolutely not equal opportunity.

Looking back at that paragraph I realize it "reads" as more pissed than I am. I'm not "pissed" about it, more of a frustrated/what are you gonna do? type attitude. I have it in me to be somewhat of an activist, but I'm just enough pessimistic that I don't think anyone would take me seriously. I think the people who are in those positions are in deep denial about how they got the positions and they will never make changes. Until you can make people aware of inequities, the inequities will always exist. For me, I'm fine. I like my life. But I look around and see so many qualified people working in positions below them and seeing them chafe at the restrictions they face and it makes my heart hurt for them.

Alright, I'm making myself feel resentful, so time to walk away from that.

I finally got smart and shut the shades to the patio door. I don't know why I hadn't done it before. That sun room gets HOT and then heats up the rest of the house. I'll bet having the shades closed will make a huge difference. I'd shut the room off completely, but that's where the cat's bowl and litter pan "live". She has to be able to get to her stuff. We pay a lot in electricity, it's expensive here. I use about the same as I did at my old house and pay about 40% more. But, they say we'll get a credit on our October bill for some of what we spent this summer. Seems odd, you'd think they give you a credit over the spring and fall months to use towards winter and summer bills (since winter and summer bills are going to be higher than spring and fall). I budget $200 for my electric bill, but it hasn't gotten that high (yet). So in about October I'll see what it averaged out to and change my budget.

Okay, this is way too long, time to stop and save something for the next few days.

Oh why not?

August 10th, 2005 at 11:12 pm

Maybe some accountability will help. Plus, I'm feeling lonely today, so why not?

Today was a pretty good day. My goal for August was to quit going to the vending machine. So far, I've skipped it. I have stopped at circle K for their big sodas, but I pour it off into water bottles and then drink it over several days rather than all at once.

I had to go to Walmart today. Ugh. But, I had to pay the water bill (and finally figured out how to get them to autodraft it, yay! no more stopping by to pay the stupid thing) so I figured why not. I did pretty well, I only got the personal care items on my list (but forgot dental floss) and then left. I had a $10 gift card from Mypoints, so I used it and then put the other $6.55 on my credit card (but the wrong one, I put it on discover which only gives me .25% rather than citibank which gives me 1%).

I'm enjoying Texas. Most personal care items are tax free. Coming from Oklahoma, that's a big savings. I'm used to paying 8.375% for EVERYTHING (food too) and now I'm here and it seems I rarely pay sales tax, and when I do, it's 8.25%.

It's hot today, so I'm not getting to the weeds like I need to. The electric weedwacker doesn't seem to work, so I'm using the manual one (craftsman brand), but it tires me out. I finally got some clippers to cut the johnsongrass, the weedwacker couldn't make headway through them.

We have a commitment to doing the best we can for the environment, which includes using a manual mower. This is wonderful, unless the grass decides to grow 4 inches in one week (it actually did that, I swear), then it will just push the grass blades over rather than cutting them. So, I spent several hours last week swinging the weedwacker over the front yard. Now it's the backyard's turn. I'm glad it's a small lot.

I haven't set that many goals yet. I want to stay within our budget (averaged monthly to allow some leeway) and pay off the credit cards (we rolled some high interest debt onto lower interest cards, but we need to pay them off ASAP anyway). I also want to try to save enough for a downpayment for a house come December. I hate renting. You get stuck with the crap your landlord buys - my dishwasher barely works and isn't energy star and the stove is from the 70s. Thankfully, the fridge is mine and is energy star. We also use a roasting oven and toaster oven for most things. Saves a lot of energy and doesn't heat up the whole house (we put the roaster in the garage). My crockpot got broken when we moved, so that's something we're thinking about buying again.

Well, that's enough for now. Thanks for reading.

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